under the covers with niki: does size matter?

{This is our sixth post for our feature, "Under the Covers with Niki." You can read about sex therapy and see other posts here.}

Does size really matter?

Well, it depends on whom you ask. Women say “no” and men say “yes!” Of course this isn’t a universal dichotomy; however, it seems that women don’t really understand men’s preoccupation with penis size.

For many men this is a real issue. They can often develop serious complexes and feel like their penis is not big enough. Many men unrealistically compare themselves to other men (particularly men in porn). Like women, men are not immune to inaccurate media hype. However, both men and women should be aware that penis size is not all it is cracked up to be. In fact, the average penis is between 2.5-4 inches when not erect. Additionally, the vagina is incredibly accommodating and will adjust to a large or small penis. Therefore the emphasis of sexual pleasure should not be size. Instead the emphasis should be technique, position, and communication.

So what is the take home message for this question? Women: don’t gossip about penis size and shame your man. Men: try to get out of your own head. If she says she likes your penis, she means it. No two penises are the same!

{image via here}


  1. You know what they say "it's not the size of the ship, it's the motion of the ocean". Haha. Can't believe I just said that on the internet!

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